Stupidity mistaken for Nobility

Mary is a friend who was respected by everyone. Her humour and maturity is well-loved and she is always good at advising others. People always like her accompany and confides in her.

Mary and Peter have known each other for years. They shared a stable relationship that many envy. One year ago, after they changed schools, they broke up for no particular reason. Peter's attitude and character just changed overnight, he initiated the break-up. Mary was devastated and clueless. There was no problem with the relationship at all. All was going well and smoothly.

At the beginning, Mary was desperately trying to save the relationship. She tries to find out the problem, tries to communicate with Peter. What was Peter's problem? He turns hostile towards people and outcast himself from the human world. So... Depression? Mental disorder?

Three months later, Mary surrendered. She conceded defeat. All she wants is to salvage the friendship. One day, when Mary was shopping around in a mall, she spotted Peter with some of his new classmates. He looked happy and like he's enjoying himself. Wasn't Peter depressed? Wasn't he rejecting any human contact? Mary's assumptions were wrong, Peter has issues.

Another six months later, Mary has started inconsistent conversations with Peter. Their friendship is still on the rocks and Peter is still throwing occasional tantrums. This time, the only old friend Peter is contact with is falling out with him. The cause: Girl - Money.

Peter and John are long time friends. After Peter's "depression", John is the only person Peter talks to. Jane turns up one day and stepped in between Peter and John. The two boys started a silent war and finally, this volcano can no longer keep it hush. They shifted their rivalries to money issues. The arguement: John owes Peter a large amount of $$.

Mary found out about the 'John and Peter' arguement. She takes out 50% of her pocketmoney for that month and pays the debt off for John. Peter doesn't know about it and he's not suppose to know. For the rest of the month, she has to live with only 50% of her pocketmoney.

It may seem like a noble act, but she's not from a very well-to-do family. In fact, her parents struggles to keep the family going. Her parents are hawkers who just moved their stall. Their business is struggling at the moment as they've lost quite afew old customers after the shift. Her monthly allowance is to cover 3 meals, transport and miscellaneous costs daily. She thinks by sacrificing her parent's hard earned cash to save her exboyfriend's friendship, is nobility.

People who hears about it think that it's such a sweet and noble thing to self-sacrifice for a friend who has issues. These people only look at the surface of problems. All I see is stupidity and sympathy for her parents. They will be so hurt if they find out how Mary is using her allowance.

Peter's problem should be settled by himself. Nobody else can help him if he refuse to accept anyone's support. He is the one who is creating problems for himself. He is the root of all cause. Mary has sacrificed enough. Give her a break.

To Mary, learn to let go. Time will heal all wounds. Trust Time. Trust Peter. Trust your friendship.

..Let go..

Book Review no.2

Book Title: Tuesdays with Morrie - An old man, a young man, and their life's experiences.
Author: Mitch Albom
Also written by Mitch Albom: Five People You Meet In Heaven

People say that if you've read Five People You Meet In Heaven, you wouldn't enjoy Tuesdays with Morrie as much. I disagree.

"Five People.." keeps readers in suspension from the start until the very end. The suspension hangs in the air as soon as you pick up the book and reads the title. Who are the five people you'll meet afterlife? What's the author's analogy? Who is first? Who's the last?

Whereas in "Tuesdays with...", the author actually shares his last moments he's had with his most respected teacher. The book might get a little dready in the middle, but the ending of the book is really enlightening.

All the lessons I've learnt from "Tuesdays with..." is far better than the entertainment I've got from "Five People...". Both are self-enriching, but "Tuesdays with..." offers readers with more food for thought.

Irritating People

It started last night, when I was asking sb (who lives up to his name, the PSG) when does he wants the yr 1 txtbks, so that he can resell it to the freshies. Our timetable dont end at the same time, so I suggested during the breaks.

However, sb (aka psg) didn't want it during the breaks. He refused to tell me what time is his break on tues and wed. He insisted that I should come out today to pass him the txtbks. Both of us were persistent on our stand and none of us would give in.

For some particular reason, he complained to yj, and yj came to bug me. Yj really annoyed me with his acting cuteness, but he's not as irritating as sb (aka psg). So, sb said that I should turn up today because he wanted to pass me something. Actually, they wanted to pass me something. The 'they' consists of Adrian, yj and sb (aka psg). In the end, I surrendered to yj's acting cuteness and sb (aka psg) irritating me.

Then today at around 1pm, sb (aka psg) msgd me to say that he is not feeling well, so he's not turning up today. I won't have to bring the txtbks anymore, but I'll still have to meet yj and adrian. I was like "Question Mark" larx!

Sb (aka psg) keep reminding me since last night that I cannot be late. So today, I reached 5mins after 3. So I was a little late, but yj and adrian were later. Damn psg! Then, Adr and yj tell me they have no idea why are we meeting up. The organiser, sb (aka psg) is not here and he never tell adr and yj anything.

I was starting to boil. My phone was running low on batt, so I used yj's 'new' phone. It's bloody soft la, cannot hear anything de! I called sb (aka psg) to ask what's going on and if it's all a prank. According to adr and yj, I was suppose to scream at sb (aka psg), I did. After screaming and hanging up, I was exploding.

Just as my volcano was about to erupt, adr pulls out a bag and says its my bday present. They pretend to not know anything earlier just so that I will call sb (aka psg) to scold him.

They used me to 借刀杀人. But since they were so nice, meet up specially to give me my present, I shall forgive them. But they were really sweet la... they really bought me something. Pretty touched I must say.

I wonder who wrapped the present, he/she must have alot of scotch tape. He/she practically taped up every single slid/opening he/she can find on the box and the wrapping paper. I think that's almost half a roll of scotch tape. That person took the effort to tape up all the openings, making me tired of slitting apart every single opening taped up to find the opening.

Still, it was really sweet of these 3 gentlemen. They were really annoying, but really really thoughtful. Hahas.

Btw, I kept emphasising on sb (aka psg) because he psgd us. PSG = Pang Seh Gao. He lives up to his name, The PSG. Once again, he pang seh us.